Five Ways to Prepare for an Optimal Birth
By Deb Davies, L.Ac.
I have assisted hundreds of couples to help prepare for an optimal birth experience and through these years I have gathered some of the top ways to prepare for the birth experience of your dreams that I’d like to share with you today!
1. Get your Partner involved
The number one way to prepare yourself for an optimal birth experience is having your partner on board as support during labor and delivery is the most powerful tool for a more relaxing, comforting and even pleasurable birth!
Ideally, the vibe of the laboring room would be similar to the environment when the baby was conceived. The lights should be dimmed;
The laboring Mom should feel safe, respected and loved. Your partner can help by loving on you, whether it is with kisses, touch, and/or sexual stimulation. If your partner gives you a nice massage or a hot juicy kiss during your labor, chances are the next surge or wave you experience will feel less intense if even felt at all. When Mom is happy and relaxed, the body releases the love hormone or Oxytocin, which helps reduce the intensity and pressure during labor and birth. Partners can help Mom change positions and even lending a helping hand to help her get up to go to the bathroom, or change positions can be extremely helpful. In some
2. Hire a doula
Hands down, the best investment in your birth is to hire a doula. Having a doula at your birth is as important as having flowers at your wedding. A doula is a labor companion that supports both you and your partner during labor and delivery.
Often, a doula is hired in the second trimester to help give the Mom plenty of time to prepare for her labor and becoming a mother. Typically the doula meets with the parents to be several times prior to the labor to discuss any fears or concerns, find the best coping methods for you, find out your preferences and also discuss worst case scenarios. A doula provides continuous emotional, mental and physical support to the laboring Mom,
3. Educate yourself
Education is empowerment. Learn the difference between midwifery care and the medical care model. Take a childbirth class, or several prenatal classes. It’s best to take the birthing classes outside of the hospital you are delivering at (if you are delivering in a hospital) to help you prepare for the labor and delivery most open to all options. There are so many kinds of classes these days, parenting classes,
4. Practice relaxation
Make yourself ultra comfortable, whether it is laying down or sitting. Pillows to prop or support any body part for optimal relaxation. Close your eyes or consider purchasing 40 Blinks (the best investment ever). Listen to soft music or pregnancy/birth affirmations while relaxing and visualizing your ideal birth. Think about your body easily opening and your baby knowing exactly what to do to gently slide out of your body and into your arms. The more relaxed you are the quicker labor typically rolls thru you. If you have a clenched jaw this can also mean your pelvis is clenched tight. If you relax your face muscles it can help relax your entire body. Taking deep breaths, and slowing down your breathing helps calm the mind and release tension. Breathe in. Breathe out. Repeat.
5. Make space for the birth
Birth takes time. In our typical modern lives with so much always going on, with never ending emails pouring in, texts and calls to respond to, social media tags, and posts, it is hard to just relax and be. Waiting to have a baby can be very trying on your nerves especially the last couple weeks or days of pregnancy. The impending “due date” is